Day 11 - Cherish

Husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. --Ephesians 5:28

Dare:
Choose a gesture that says, "I cherish you" and do it with a smile.

The chapter talks about treating your spouses body as if it were part of you. When you say or do hurtful things to that person, you're hurting a part of yourself. I hate hurting Sas. I've never hurt her physically, but have verbally. When we fight, we say plenty of hurtful things and have a difficult time forgiving.

Goes back to day 1 regarding patience. I think a big part of it is also understanding. We need to understand where the other is coming from to avoid unnecessary conflict. The better we understand the other's point of view, the less likely we'll be to fight about it.

Today's task is to do something for your spouse that shows that we cherish them. I do cherish Sas. I do things often for her and I think we do a lot for each other around the house so that the other doesn't have to. My biggest thing is that I don't get enough time with her. On a daily basis, we just get nighttime with each other and we're both usually pretty beat. So we'll veg in front of the TV for a little while. We used to have a lot more energy to do stuff together in this time. When our first born was a baby, can you believe we sometimes played badminton on the front lawn after she fell asleep for the night? We just loved playing games with one another. We still do, but the stresses of the day make us just not want to do anything.

It's hard too because I'm sure she wants time to herself as well. All day teaching, then a few hours dealing with the kids homework, dinner, chores, lesson plans for the following day, grading tests and homework... And then me wanting time too? It's tough not being first in line of attention sometimes. I don't know what the answer is, I just know that I always wish for more time with her.

We have tried to do a date night once per month. Lately we've been going that one time to friends of ours and playing games. That does help, though we can't do that every date night because it would be nice for just the two of us to be doing something.

Ah I digress. What was today's topic? Cherish. It's a lot like yesterday, difficult to think of something to do for the other. I'm not sure I know what I could do that would come unexpected to her that would show my appreciation for her. Yesterday to show unconditional love, I played our wedding song and we danced to it. It was nice.

NON-MARRIAGE THOUGHT OF THE DAY:
Please do not bash teachers and the dollar amount they make. Most teachers do so much for their classes and work during any free time in class. Thank your child's teacher today!