Day 7 - Positives and Negatives

This chapter was called "Love believes the best." It talks about how we have two main rooms for our thoughts and feelings for our spouse. One is all of the positives about them. All of the good things that they are, that they can be, that they do. The other is the frustrations, the irritations, the annoyances, all the comments that are thought of in a fight or for a fight. We find ourselves thinking about the things in this room rather than the positives room.

Dare:
Get two sheets of paper. On the first, write out positive things about your spouse. Then do the same with negative things on the second. Place both sheets in a secret place. At some point during the remainder of the day, pick a positive attribute from the first list and thank your spouse for having this characteristic.

I once tried something that worked pretty well, but was difficult to maintain. Everytime I was with my wife, I thought to myself, "I love this woman. She's my wife. I am so in love with this woman." Doing this made me smile, made me think of all of positives about her. It made me patient and slow to anger. I wasn't able to turn it into a habit, so it only lasted a short time. But I remember how it felt and how it worked. My hope is that this 40 day challenge will get me to that place ao that I stay thinking about the room with the positive things about Sas.

My wife is an awesome person. She's an excellent mom, a great cook, and probably the most thoughtful person I have ever known. She's practical, organized, and determined. She is able to do numerous things at once and has a positive attitude that she can get anything done. She is also a forgiving, loving person.

I don't know what I would do without her.

My list of negatives is not listed here.

NON-MARRIAGE THOUGHT OF THE DAY:
Are the Mets for real? They won 7 straight and took over first place. Do I start caring again and watching only to be let down when they do poorly? I guess I've stuck with them this long, I'd stick with them through another let down if it happens. I guess I cheer for the Mets unconditionally. I love me wife unconditionally as well. No matter what struggles we go through, in good times and in bad, I will always love her unconditionally.