Days 16-18

I've been slacking a little in updating this blog. I most often am able to update it when at work and have not had as much time lately. Hopefully I can take more time to keep it up so that it does not become forgotten.

Love Dare - Day 18
Prepare a special dinner at home and focus this time on getting to know your spouse better.
Proverbs 3:13

Tonight we plan to have a late dinner after the kids go so bed. It's a Friday night, no school tomorrow, so it might be late. I think it will be worth waiting because I'd like to go over some of the questions that are in the book's appendix. Maybe we can learn from each other. I think if we approach this in a good way with a positive attitude, it could be fun.

The chapter talks about how when we were dating we were trying to find out so much about each other, investing time and energy into learning everything we could about the other. I remember we used to talk on the phone for a long time when we didn't live together. Then when we started living together, we stopped talking to each other as in depth. I've said sometimes when we were having disagreements that it would be easier for me to talk to her on the phone than in person. I think I have some sort of issue there where it's more difficult talking to someone in person. I've tried to be better at talking to Sas lately and hopefully can continue.



--------------------------------------------------------------------------------


Love Dare - Day 17
Determine to guard your mate's secrets and pray for them.
Proverbs 17:9

There have been times when Sas has tried to tell me things about her day and I immediately try to solve the problem. That's what I'm here for, right? No, sometimes I just need to be there to let her vent on some things or share some things. I need to remember that. I also need to learn to not make fun or try to make jokes at innapropriate times. Hopefully with these two things, Sas will be more comfortable in sharing things with me. I hate to think that sometimes she feels she can't say anything to me because I'll either get angry, overexaggerate, or make fun. I feel so rude knowing that I have done that and hope to show her the respect, honor, and trust that she deserves.

--------------------------------------------------------------------------------


Love Dare - Day 16
Pray for three specific areas where you desire for God to work in your spouse's life and in your marriage.

I'm not much of a prayer, but Sas is so I will pray for her and for us. I pray that Sas smiles more and gets more joy out of every day. I sometimes worry that she gets too caught up in all of the stuff that has to get done. I pray that Sas is able to give a little on her stubbornness and try to not hold grudges. Finally, I pray that she trusts me to talk to me and understand that I will always be there for her.

For our marriage, I pray that we practice patience and be slow to anger. I pray that we attempt to understand one another rather than be quick to jump to an assumption.